Is Learning not to Love Like Learning not to Hate?

So I have this horrible habit of "falling" for guys that don't like me back. I have dealt with it in various ways - I used to keep hanging out with them hoping they would eventually "fall" for me - this has NEVER happened!!! I typically end up more hurt in the end - do you need a list for me to convince you??? Well about 4 months ago I started changing a lot of things about my life. And this is something I need to do better. My goal and hope is to continue to be friends with this guy - without falling harder for him. Ahhhh the ultimate boundary game. I am quite freaked. I have told the guy - I have always loved being super duper open with people; it also frees me to pull way away if need be - he understands why then.

So great plan right??? The execution however isn't turning out so easy! Duh :) Every time I have seen him I have been an emotional wreak (which is getting old) from reasons other than him. And every time I get all prepared he isn't at church!! I also believe the longer it takes the harder it gets.

So I was thinking about this today..... and I am wondering if getting over someone you "love" (I don't love him in the full sense but you know what I mean) is kind of like getting over someone that you hate (but in both cases either need to (getting over hate) or want to (getting over someone you like) be in relationship with still (and by relationship I mean friendship - don't get confused ;) So I am thinking lots of prayer (of course) and then lots of "acting" like it doesn't bother me. The whole "Fake it til you Make it" thing - please pray for me!!